Tuesday, May 26, 2015
It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right...[May 25, 2015]
I sent my mom last week to find a title for me and she ended up just putting up my message to find it as the title...awkward.
Remember last week when I mentioned we met that guy that recognized me from before and he came to stake conference, well he called us on Tuesday and asked when the elders were planning on seeing him. We told him we didn't know and then he was like okay, and then we ended it and were like bye...and he was like bye and then an awkward moment and then said sweet dreams and we didn't' know what to do, so we just hung up. He was progressing well, but the elders haven't been able to contact them recently, so hopefully he's still okay...
Well, now I have a really sad story. Once upon a time there was this girl that was investigating the church. Her mom is a member but has been less active since she was a teenager. We got her from the elders when I got here over 3 months ago and have been teaching her when we can see her. She doesn't answer her phone (we think her parents blocked us) but we would text her mom and she would tell us if she was available for us to stop by. Well, Allisa wanted to get baptized, but her mom thought she needed to learn more, so we decided, we just needed to sit down with her and her mom and figure some things out and see what we could compromise. Well, her mom kept saying she was busy with school and we could do it after her finals. Well, during this we went to Allisa's orchestra concert and it was awesome. She pretty much was like a little sister we were trying to help out.
Well, then it was 2 weeks and her mom never texted us back and Allisa hadn't been to church. So naturally we went to her house to figure out what was up. Well, when we knock on the door some lady answers it and says oh I don't live here, I'll get them, like awkward. Well, her step dad (who is a buddhist of a couple years) answers the door with Allisa and he was like, I thought we made it clear that you can't stop by unless you text us. Which, Allisa mentioned offhandedly one day, but her parents never told us themselves that we couldn't stop by, unless we made an appointment. Plus, we just quickly wanted to see what was up with them not texting us back and her not being at church. Well, we mentioned her mom hasn't been texting us back and Allisa was like to her dad, yeah, she hasn't been texting them back and he was like well doesn't that tell you something that we are too busy and for you to not come by? What don't you understand.
I was not going to put up with his crap. We love Allisa and we know that her parents are uber controlling and I was just sick of them not communicating to us, if they want to drop us, fine, but if not we are going to try to do what we can to help Allisa. I was just so unprepared with all of this that I just said, our purpose is to help people, but we have to be able to see the people to help them. That is literally all I said and he was like how dare you come to my house and be disrespectful to me. Don't give me all this purpose stuff, you need to get a new purpose. You better leave right now. He then just slammed the door.
Yeah, I have never been so close to tears on my mission before. I was doing everything I could to help this girl and then her parents had the guile to call us disrespectful and treat us so poorly when all we wanted to do was help their daughter.
Well, we texted her mom later and said that we were super confused with the hostility her husband showed and all we wanted to do was support her daughter and we are sorry for any miscommunication. Well, she texted us back saying she feels we were disrespectful and crossed the line and said that we were never welcome by their house again and to tell the church they don't want any other visitors and all this stuff.
I'm sure her husband told her a very exaggerated story, because it all doesn't make sense, but in the end there is nothing you can do. I believe there is a very special place for parents like that that hold their kids back and it's probs not a super happy one. This is the second part member family that has dropped us with kids that we were teaching since I've been here.
I need to stop getting attached to kids.
Well, what this really is is Heavenly Father teaching me meekness and it's not fun. Ever since I read this talk on Meekness by Elder Neal A. Maxwell, I have been getting experiences like this and it's definitely a growing experience.
On the flip side we had spare ribs this week and then the next night we had steak. I love the members here! Now they just need to give us their friends to teach! lol.
We also got a pleasant surprise at church where a 12 year old that we met just visiting random less actives on the roster just showed up. We were sitting there and she comes bounding in and she knew the member behind us from school and was like Hi, Miss Wendy! and the member was like oh my goodness, what are you doing here? Who brought you? She explained her aunt dropped her off and I explained how we met her. I went to Young Womens with her and no one knew who she was, because she had never been to church while in Topeka. It was really cool, but it's too bad she didn't come to church a couple weeks earlier, because she could've gone to girls camp...they are still going to work on it though and see if she could make it.
Our ward mission leader (bro. scerbo) is literally the best ward mission leader in the world! When we told him our Allisa sob story at coordination he was like WHY DIDNT YOU CALL ME? We just hadn't thought about it and he was like I could've brought you ice cream or something. haha. but really sometimes I forget about the angels God sends us on this side of the veil as well. He also, came to our lesson after that and he gave this analogy about your favorite ice cream. He said that you can love it and describe it to people all you want, but really in the end all you can say is, you just have to try it for yourself. He said that was like God in the Pre-Earth Life where he described what it was like to have a body, but we just had to figure it out for ourselves. I thought of my favorite things to do with the senses I have: floating in a lake, listening to Mahler 5 in a pitch black room, running down a warm beach playing with dogs, eating my moms homemade chicken pie, etc. All things that I can't do while on my mission. Why would He deny me these things if we came to earth to have these experiences? I think He denies us these things, because when we do we are more spiritually in tune than we can ever be. We need to be able to have the Spirit with us so much that if we walk into a room, people can feel it's presence and know what our purpose is, just by being there.